|Classic Miles' pic. Squirrel laugh, distracted kid and the top of a head.|
But I get a little tired of moms and the media touting the hard job that a mother has with no mention of dad. Yes, mom does work hard. No, she never gets a break. Yes, it's a thankless job. No, there are no immediate benefits.
But what about dad*?
What about the guy that works to make it all happen? You know, the guy who pays the bills. At least around here he does. I know that not everyone has a traditional situation where mom stays home and dad works but no matter what version of life you're living, those guys of ours, they're pretty amazing**.
They rarely get a sick day (not that we do either but at least we don't have to pretend to function around other adults). They don't get to skip work and hang out on the couch just because (have you seen my laundry room? There has been some definite skipping around these parts). They have to deal with the crazy they married (okay, maybe that's just my guy, I'm sure the rest of you are sane). The load that these men carry is staggering. I feel like I'm a pretty strong and resourceful person but the thought of being responsible for 4 midget mouths and meeting work obligations and working on an intensive Master's program makes me want to cry.
I think that it must be confusing to be a man. Seriously, I do. We expect them to have all the answers yet they must always agree with us and assure us that we are right. We want them to be strong and fearless but then we get frustrated when they won't share every feeling with us. We expect for them to always be happy and glad to see us while we are allowed to cry and blame all of our problems on them.
Maybe I'm the only one who feels this way. The rest of you are probably 100% supportive and never play emotional games with your partners but I'm not quite that mature. I'm working on it and I'm probably doing better than I was when we first started but I've got a long ways to go.
So the moral of this ramble is that I love my husband. I think he's the hardest working man I know. I am trying to treat him with more dignity and respect. He deserves a wife that loves and supports him and allows him room to be himself.
Isn't that what every guy needs?
*Single moms, I don't know how you do it. My momma was one and I know of no group of women who are stronger or more incredible. My imaginary hat's off to you.
**Unless he's an abusive jerk, if he hurts you with words or with fists, please get out. You're better than that.