The goal sounds nice but the getting there, well, it's no cake walk. Yumm, cake. Anyhow, we're trying to help the kids understand that there are consequences to every action. If you don't eat your dinner, dessert ain't gonna happen. If you leave your toys in the family room, wave goodbye. Those are immediate and simple consequences. But sometimes those punks of ours make choices and no matter how much it hurts us or them, we just can't bail them out because back to our big abstract goal, we're trying to raise responsible adults.
This morning my oldest called me from school telling me that she had forgot her homework. She wanted me to bring it to her. Well, here's the problem. I had asked her before we left the house if she was ready to go and she said yes. She knows what needs to be done and she knew that her homework was due today. She's 7, perfectly capable of packing her backpack.
|She's playing her air guitar, cool huh?!|
So even though it killed me to say "sorry about that but it's not my job to remember your homework" I'm glad I did. And honestly, I hope I never have to do it again, I can't handle that kind of stress, especially when I not eating sugar.
Parenting without a clue,
PS- Just to clarify, the mistakes that they are allowed to make and learn from aren't life threatening or dangerous. If there were a car coming and they decided to take a walk in the road, you'd better believe I'd be bailing them out of that one.