I've spent some time being a bit troubled/ confused/ frustrated by the story of Martha and Mary in the Bible. Go here for the King James Version but for the lazy among us I'll give you the Tic- Tac version. Jesus was in the home of Mary and Martha teaching. Martha was working to get the home ready for the guests that were sure to come while Mary sat and listened.
I've always identified with Martha. After all elves don't exist (don't tell my kids) so someone has to cook the food and clean the house and and and...
After Martha complained to Jesus about her "lazy" sister, He told her that Mary had chosen the better part. What?! Now those of you that are more spiritually mature than me are shaking your heads but I just didn't get it. All I could see was Martha being chastised.
Until now. I get it. Finally. Let me lay it out for you (disclaimer: I'm not a scholar, just a woman trying to make sense of life). Martha was doing what needed to be done and that's okay but sometimes there is a better choice. Mary knew that the Savior wouldn't always be there to teach and she was soaking up the time she had, to sit at his feet and learn.
Sometimes I am so busy taking care of my family and doing the things that I want to do that I forget to savor the moments. My children won't always be under my roof (cross your fingers) so shouldn't I take a few minutes here and there to listen to and enjoy them? I love my husband, I like being around him and okay, I sorta lust after him but do I tell him that? Not always. I'm usually too busy keeping all the spinning plates going because heaven forbid I go to bed with dirty dishes in the sink or put my book down before I finish!
So there you go. Finally after years of cringing when reading those verses or trying to pick a fight with the Marys of the world (mature, I know) I finally get it. My family is the better part. They come first.
I choose them.